Getting to know you

 Isn’t it funny how couples spend lots of time finding out about each other’s preferences in food, clothing, and hobbies but not about how they can afford them?

Many couples decide to move in together or to get married avoiding the most important conversation of all: money!!

Setting up a household account is not enough. You want to share your money history, your money personality, your financial goals and expectations. Define, describe your role, your participation in the marital money dynamics. 

What is the perfect time for couples to have the money conversation?

           After the 5th date?

                                   Before the wedding planner?

                                   When you buy your first house together?

                                   With the divorce or bankruptcy attorneys?

It can be a revealing chat, pivotal in the relationship, but if you are serious about your union, if you want it to last your lifetime, you will find the right time and the right tone to open the communications.


My money whisper for today:

Prepare a romantic dinner for two, light some candles, set the mood with a little waterfall or soundscapes and make the first step towards a healthy, wealthy and wise future together.

                       

                                    

 

December 2010

 

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